Awkward situation...

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  • DoctorZoidberg 17 Jan 2010 20:31:20 214 posts
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    Hello.

    I'm going to apologise in advance as I hate these questions as much as the next guy, but I'm in a classic situation.

    I'm going to cut it down to the finer details to spare you, but I've kind of started seeing a girl who dated a good friend of mine. They were only together for literally two weeks, but he's one of those stubborn guys, you know the type....

    Basically, how the fuck do I tell him? You all know the deal here, I've pretty much decided that telling is the only option, its what gentleman do.

    Anyone been there? I'm thinking of arranging a pub trip, the two of us and just laying the cards down. Seems reasonable right?
  • Lutz 17 Jan 2010 20:31:48 48,861 posts
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    FHUTA
  • Clive_Dunn 17 Jan 2010 20:32:37 4,863 posts
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    You don't tell him, he'll find out in time and either deal with it or try to kill you.
  • Metalfish 17 Jan 2010 20:32:45 9,101 posts
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    FHUTA...






    ...then her.
  • Deleted user 17 January 2010 20:32:46
    /blog
  • Trowel 17 Jan 2010 20:33:56 20,433 posts
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    Clive Dunn wrote:
    You don't tell him, he'll find out in time and either deal with it or try to kill you.
    Do this. And if he kills you he's obviously not a very good friend.
  • StarchildHypocrethes 17 Jan 2010 20:33:59 29,080 posts
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    2 weeks?

    It shouldn't be any sort of issue at all. If he's a proper man, full of manly manliness that is.
  • Deleted user 17 January 2010 20:34:24
    Play it casual, then he'll seem like a cock if he over-reacts, and you can get up on a high horse in the moral high-ground in the courtyard of the ivory tower.

    or FHUTA, your choice.
  • Deleted user 17 January 2010 20:35:13
    Invite him for a three some.
  • Metalfish 17 Jan 2010 20:35:30 9,101 posts
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    Mr-Brett wrote:
    and you can get up on a high horse in the moral high-ground in the courtyard of the ivory tower.
    Joke theft detected!
  • Deleted user 17 January 2010 20:35:56
    Are you happy with sloppy seconds?
  • heyyo 17 Jan 2010 20:36:06 14,362 posts
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    Wait 'til you have loads to say to this guy, then phone him up and drop the bomb mid-conversation but change the subject quickly - if he becomes a prick about it then then pretend you're going through a tunnel or on hands free kit and hang up.

    Hey, at least you won't get strangled over the phone :)
  • localnotail 17 Jan 2010 20:38:43 23,084 posts
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    does she have any intimate tattoos or prominent genital skin conditions that you can use as an icebreaker?
  • otto Moderator 17 Jan 2010 20:38:46 49,322 posts
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    DoctorZoidberg wrote:
    Anyone been there? I'm thinking of arranging a pub trip, the two of us and just laying the cards down. Seems reasonable right?
    Sounds as if you're making a bit too much of it, I'd aim for a casual 'by the way, did you know I'm seeing wotserface?' next time you see him.
  • DoctorZoidberg 17 Jan 2010 20:40:14 214 posts
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    Sounds as if you're making a bit too much of it, I'd aim for a casual 'by the way, did you know I'm seeing wotserface?' next time you see him.

    I think your right, play it by ear.
  • DFawkes Friendliest Forumite, 2015 17 Jan 2010 20:41:23 29,116 posts
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    Kick him in the ball until he's sick.

    Now to actually read the OP and see what the problem actually was.
  • Metalfish 17 Jan 2010 20:41:43 9,101 posts
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    localnotail wrote:
    prominent genital skin conditions that you can use as an icebreaker?
    That's pretty damn prominent if it can be used for Arctic exploration.
  • mrpon 17 Jan 2010 20:42:07 32,367 posts
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    You're the reason she split up with him aren't you?
  • DoctorZoidberg 17 Jan 2010 20:45:32 214 posts
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    You're the reason she split up with him aren't you?

    Ha, maybe in part. But I think it was a combination of a few other things.
  • Deleted user 17 January 2010 20:45:56
    Metalfish wrote:
    Mr-Brett wrote:
    and you can get up on a high horse in the moral high-ground in the courtyard of the ivory tower.
    Joke theft detected!

    I think I added the courtyard bit, plus it's a homage not a plagiarism ;)
  • mrpon 17 Jan 2010 20:47:35 32,367 posts
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    Oh dear. Spit roast?
  • FWB 17 Jan 2010 20:48:27 52,266 posts
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    You're not really together if it's lasted two weeks. You're still in the early stages of dating.
  • bignose 17 Jan 2010 20:54:31 81 posts
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    your bitch just chose me
  • Pirotic Moderator 17 Jan 2010 20:57:25 20,637 posts
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    Why do you have to tell him? My logic is that if it's going to be a case of you guys all hanging out quite often and therefore it not being something you can keep secret, the better question is are you ok hanging around with somebody who's had a fling with your girlfriend?

    Maybe I'm emotionally immature, but I doubt I could date someone if one of my friends had a fling with them. At least not if I planned to keep in contact with them both. I'd either ditch the friend or just not bother with the girl, considering most of my friends are womanizers my general rule of thumb was any girl dumb enough to fall for them wasn't someone I wanted to ever get involved with anyway. Still..
  • Load_2.0 17 Jan 2010 21:10:43 23,564 posts
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    Two weeks?

    That's not dating that's just boning. How may times did he see her in 14 days?

    Tell him to stfu and accept the fact you will be sharing the sensation of penetrating the same birth canal.

    That's not worth a trip to the pub, a text maybe. personally I would email him a photo mid coitus with a photo-shopped speech bubble saying "wish you were here".
  • Benno 17 Jan 2010 21:38:36 11,577 posts
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    FTUTA
  • DaM 17 Jan 2010 21:41:31 16,011 posts
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    One of my mates went out with a girl i lived with for 3 years, I was OK with it, sort of. Went to stay at their flat a couple of times, it was weird seeing her stuff around the flat, as it had been "our stuff". Still laughed like a drain when they split up though :)
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