Well, my brother is getting married...

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  • Beats 22 Feb 2007 13:07:43 303 posts
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    ...and he has just asked me to be his best man.

    I'm dead excited about doing it but have no idea what kind of responsibilities and jobs are expected of the best man, other than getting him to the church on time, giving him support and, of course, the stag do!
    Anything else I should be doing for him?

    Anyway - all the best, bro!
  • SirScratchalot 22 Feb 2007 13:12:01 7,877 posts
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    Congrats man!
    If you come up with any Bachaelor party ideas let me know as I have 3 to plan before summer.
  • Beats 22 Feb 2007 13:21:23 303 posts
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    SirScratchalot wrote:
    Congrats man!
    If you come up with any Bachaelor party ideas let me know as I have 3 to plan before summer.

    Cheers mate.

    He wants a casino night, so I'll sort that out for him in Birmingham or London and probably get him a stripper to embarass him in front of his mates :-P
    Might do something like go-carting or paintballing in the daytime beforehand.

    I'm really looking forward to it actually as I've never planned anything big before.
  • DaM 22 Feb 2007 13:26:46 13,542 posts
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    Beats wrote:
    SirScratchalot wrote:
    Congrats man!
    If you come up with any Bachaelor party ideas let me know as I have 3 to plan before summer.

    Cheers mate.

    He wants a casino night, so I'll sort that out for him in Birmingham or London and probably get him a stripper to embarass him in front of his mates :-P
    Might do something like go-carting or paintballing in the daytime beforehand.

    I'm really looking forward to it actually as I've never planned anything big before.

    My cousins both got married last year, one had a paint ball day, the other karting (prior to a night on the lash). Both were excellent, good for getting to know all the guys (as you will have a mixture of family, mates, work colleagues etc).
    The karting was excellent, a big outdoor track. I am sure I would have finished higher up if the groom wasn't a mechanic for a rally team...and had been a rally driver for years...as were all his mates...and the bride's family...!
  • JimJam 22 Feb 2007 13:27:06 769 posts
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    Basically, as well as the things you've already mentioned, you're the go-between between the bride & groom and their employees on the day i.e. photographer, caterers, DJ etc. If there's something they're not happy with, it's your job to sort it. It's also tradition for you to hand over any cheques that are owed to these types of people on the day - not your own money of course, just another thing for you to look after, like the ring.

    And the speech. There's always a speech. Reply on behalf of the bridesmaids, read out a couple of cards from absent family & friends, say something nice about the bride and then get off after 5 minutes.
  • dgb 22 Feb 2007 13:27:39 657 posts
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    Remember you have the speech to do too!
  • Beats 22 Feb 2007 13:30:51 303 posts
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    Ah - the speech!!
    Shouldn't be too much of a problem as I've got loads of funny stories I could tell about him and then finish it off with some nice comments about the newly weds.

    I just can't believe he's getting married before me! He's 3 years younger!
  • dgb 22 Feb 2007 13:38:05 657 posts
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    JimJam wrote:
    Basically, as well as the things you've already mentioned, you're the go-between between the bride & groom and their employees on the day i.e. photographer, caterers, DJ etc. If there's something they're not happy with, it's your job to sort it. It's also tradition for you to hand over any cheques that are owed to these types of people on the day - not your own money of course, just another thing for you to look after, like the ring.

    And the speech. There's always a speech. Reply on behalf of the bridesmaids, read out a couple of cards from absent family & friends, say something nice about the bride and then get off after 5 minutes.

    What he said!
    I've been a best man once and I enjoyed it very much!
  • billythekid 22 Feb 2007 13:40:20 11,403 posts
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    Get the money for Go-karts/paintball or whatever in advance. People are fuckers for backing out at the last minute, leaving you out of pocket. I hate doing the organising for this reason.
  • nickthegun 22 Feb 2007 14:11:57 61,364 posts
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    My mate and I got married within a month of each other so we had a joint stag. We found that it was a bit of a nightmare booking somewhere that A) took big groups of lads and B) Getting activities sorted out for everyone.

    In the end we went through http://www.stagweb.co.uk/ who were brilliant. They sorted out accommodation, activities and gave us an itinerary and maps.

    We had a weekend in newquay and got tickets to a club, a clay pidgeon shooting tournament and a go-kart grand-prix. The only thing our best men had to do was agree on the place and collect the cash.

    /I do not work for stagweb.....

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    My man gives real loving that's why I call him Killer
    He's not a wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am, he's a thriller

  • Beats 22 Feb 2007 16:19:30 303 posts
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    nickthegun wrote:
    My mate and I got married within a month of each other so we had a joint stag. We found that it was a bit of a nightmare booking somewhere that A) took big groups of lads and B) Getting activities sorted out for everyone.

    In the end we went through http://www.stagweb.co.uk/ who were brilliant. They sorted out accommodation, activities and gave us an itinerary and maps.

    We had a weekend in newquay and got tickets to a club, a clay pidgeon shooting tournament and a go-kart grand-prix. The only thing our best men had to do was agree on the place and collect the cash.

    /I do not work for stagweb.....

    Cheers for the link, mate. I'll give this a proper look at when I get home.
  • PES_Fanboy 22 Feb 2007 16:25:05 18,999 posts
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    billythekid wrote:
    Get the money for Go-karts/paintball or whatever in advance. People are fuckers for backing out at the last minute, leaving you out of pocket. I hate doing the organising for this reason.

    Very sage advice.

    I was best man twice last year, one was great until the end of the night*, and the other was crap until the end of the night.

    Just try to stay sober until after the ceremony, and remember that it's an honour, even though you're knackered, and look like a tit in the really ugly waistcoat the bride chose for you.

    * - great stag do, great ceremony, awesome dinner reception, evening reception slightly marred when the married couple were leaving, and a very inebriated friend of the groom blurted out:

    Give 'er one for me, Morris**! Right up the SHITTER!

    Whilst standing next to the parents of the bride.

    ** - no, not *that* Morris.
  • nickthegun 22 Feb 2007 16:30:23 61,364 posts
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    The one that brought the house down at our wedding was:

    'When I first planned my best mans speech, I thought I would only do a few lines. But im actually really nervous so i've done the whole the whole wrap'.

    Edited by nickthegun at 16:31:04 22-02-2007

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  • DaM 22 Feb 2007 16:48:41 13,542 posts
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    nickthegun wrote:
    The one that brought the house down at our wedding was:

    'When I first planned my best mans speech, I thought I would only do a few lines. But im actually really nervous so i've done the whole the whole wrap'.

    Edited by nickthegun at 16:31:04 22-02-2007

    That would probably depend on the audience!
  • DodgyPast 22 Feb 2007 16:55:07 8,551 posts
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    SirScratchalot wrote:
    Congrats man!
    If you come up with any Bachaelor party ideas let me know as I have 3 to plan before summer.
    I got the duty of organising a stag party a few years ago....

    But I got to do it in Bangkok as a bonus.

    The drunken go karting did end up with the groom's hand getting run over and nearly being too swollen for the wedding ring to fit on the big day.
  • Spanky 22 Feb 2007 16:57:23 14,611 posts
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    I hope you're getting him a nice gift? My bro is doin the best man gig at ours in october and i'm buying his entire kilt ensemble for him, none of that rented shite.

    We're doing the west highland/whiskey distillery/way as the stag night. Whole week of it. StagWeek!

    Plubs

  • Fonzie 22 Feb 2007 18:00:01 1,876 posts
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    Beats wrote:
    ...and he has just asked me to be his best man.

    I'm dead excited about doing it but have no idea what kind of responsibilities and jobs are expected of the best man, other than getting him to the church on time, giving him support and, of course, the stag do!
    Anything else I should be doing for him?

    Anyway - all the best, bro!

    Snap - except my brother asked me months ago - now only got 2 months to sort it out.
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