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  • Vice.Destroyer 3 May 2010 08:54:33 5,838 posts
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    She knows how I feel. And to be fair, it is probably (or definitely) not her fault. I am immature. I was immature when she met me. I am immature now. And it is causing tension.

    And she has her friends and family that keep reminding her that there is a financial imbalance in our relationship. She now earns TWICE as much as I do, so that got brought up on saturday and caused an almighty row.

    Apart from that, there is not really much to say. Keep the relationship going? Then I have to grow up. Become more responsible. Learn how to cook. Start earning adult money. That sort of thing.
  • CosmicFuzz 3 May 2010 09:01:41 24,360 posts
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    Sounds to me like you need to ask yourself if you still love her etc. Do you really want to be with her? If you don't want to "grow up" for her, then that's saying something, isn't it?

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  • LionheartDJH 3 May 2010 09:01:43 19,460 posts
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    Wait a minute Vice, you said you gave up your career to move up to Glasgow with her? I'm assuming then that you couldn't get as good a job up there than you had where you previously lived? If so is that not some of her fault for making you move? In addition moving away from a job, family and friends, more or less most of what you know, seems like a pretty mature move to me.

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  • Vice.Destroyer 3 May 2010 09:15:56 5,838 posts
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    @Lionheart
    Yep, but you know how it is. Reason does not come into it, in certain arguments. And unfortunately, she places a lot more stock in her friends and familys opinion on how things are running. So much so that I get the impression, as I told her, that her friends and family must think of me as some sort of leech. It's all really demoralising.

    @Cosmic
    I can't quite tell whether I want this to work because I put so much into it and don't want the sacrifices to have been in vain. Or because I still love her.
  • KingOfSpain 3 May 2010 09:51:04 5,187 posts
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    Sorry to heat about your problems Vic, unfortunately I don't really have anything to add to what has already been said by the EG collective.

    However, I will say this, "growing up" isn't always a bad thing. In fact it can be quite rewarding. You don't have to look at it as such a bad thing.

    For me, moving in with my missus, having a little 'un and being more responsible scared the shit out if me at first but I'm now loving it.

    Anyway, I know every relationship is different so I don't presume to know anything about your life with this lass. Feel free to ignore me!
  • Vice.Destroyer 3 May 2010 10:00:06 5,838 posts
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    You're right. Growing up isn't a bad thing. And it is probably way, WAY overdue. I am just smarting at having things thrown in my face when things would be very different if I was still back home in London.

    If I was still in my old job, then a large proportion of the equity in our home would be mine. I'd also be more inclined to go on holiday more if I could afford it. And a whole load of other things that revolve around money.

    Even though it turns my stomach, I am looking into taking out a loan for some post-graduate studying. Something that gets you a job at the end of it in Glasgow.
  • KingOfSpain 3 May 2010 10:04:07 5,187 posts
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    I didn't know you could do a post-grad course in drunk dealing :)

    /sorry, couldn't resist!
  • Vice.Destroyer 3 May 2010 10:07:07 5,838 posts
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    UWS caters to all. If you can do it, and most importantly, pay for it, you can have letters after your name for it.

    Vice.Destroyer, B.E.E.R, W.I.N.E
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  • Vroom 3 May 2010 10:27:26 4,644 posts
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    Vice.Destroyer wrote:
    UWS caters to all. If you can do it, and most importantly, pay for it, you can have letters after your name for it.

    Vice.Destroyer, B.E.E.R, W.I.N.E
    :)

    My 2 cents.

    Don't be forced into 'growing up'. If you can't be yourself on a relationship get the hell out.

    Just my 2 cent ;)

    Vroom

  • stephenb 3 May 2010 10:33:33 2,738 posts
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    @vice.destroyer

    Moving a few hundred miles so your partner can be closer to there relatives and giving up a higher paid job sounds pretty selfless to me.

    From your post her family sound like there acting like a bunch of cunts tbh regarding your financial situation. Are they aware of what you gave up to be in Glasgow with her?

    You do, however, need to learn how to cook :)

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  • Vice.Destroyer 3 May 2010 10:58:45 5,838 posts
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    Yep, cooking is fundamental. I should have learned ages ago. Thinking back, it is shameful in the extreme to be on first-name basis with my local chinese, indian and chip shop. All the way from my uni days up to the day that I left my last place in London.
  • Lexx87 27 May 2010 22:53:27 20,869 posts
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    Tell you what all it takes is a glass of wine to fill the night with feeling exceptionally lonely.

    Long distance fail.

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  • stalinsmash 16 Oct 2010 15:08:33 25 posts
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    Are gays allowed in this thread? I'm so ronery :(
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