I agree with kalel, mostly, and what I said a few pages back: nothing wrong with not wanting/not having kids. I however, don't ascribe to the "oh woe is me and my incredibly important life that I'll have to give up" sentiment.|
My marriage is stronger for it, that's one. I'm stronger for it: the amount you learn about yourself is shocking, and that can only be good. Having to put yourself to one side is humbling and character building. As is trying to live up the the rather enormous responsibilities that are involved.
Yes, it's extremely hard work, but the best things in life are. Wading through shit and screaming and coming out clean on the other side is the real test of a man, imo.
You also see that your wife look at you differently, especially when being a "good dad." It's another level of respect and understanding in a relationship, that look. Difficult to describe other than that you can feel it when your back is turned and it often results in a fantastic shag later on - not there and then, that would be horrifying for the children.
Given what I know about Gremmi, I think it would be a tragedy that he didn't have a child. Someone as intelligent and as sensitive as he is not having a child is a waste. Fair enough that he doesn't want one, although the reasons why he doesn't I take issue with, but who cares what I think. However, there is some credence to Dirtbox's sentiment about being in some way duty bound, I think. Almost everything that is wrong with our society on a social level has been parenting. The more ethically responsible, intelligent, caring, sensitive yet forthright and virtuous (Gremmi) that become parents the better society will be as a whole.
But, as with most things in life, the people whom society would be better off if they didn't reproduce are the ones with the most children and vice-versa. That's the real tragedy.