Becoming a father. Page 20

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  • elstoof 26 Nov 2012 11:53:41 8,332 posts
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    Also, we just had to turn down a place at one of our back up nurseries because we're holding out for our first choice - the back up won't hold the slot so that's £150 deposit down the drain.
  • RedSparrows 26 Nov 2012 11:58:44 24,315 posts
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    I was looked after by a childminder, and she was absolutely lovely: she was adored by our family. My first word was the name of her dog.

    Edited by RedSparrows at 11:59:06 26-11-2012
  • cowell 26 Nov 2012 11:58:50 715 posts
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    elstoof wrote:
    It's madness isn't it, we registered at 3 nurseries paying non refundable deposits to each with no guarantee there'll be a place for any. We only really want one of them but had to hand money out to 2 others in case we don't get the one we want. Luckily we registered months ago and the director's told is we'll almost definitely have a place, but it won't be confirmed until January, leaving 2 months before my wife goes back to work.
    Non-refundable when the place isn't guaranteed? Utter lunacy. Presumably they can pull this because places are in demand?

    We'd ruled out child minders. Our personal view was that being in a larger group of kids would socialise ours a bit more. Definitely pros and cons to both solutions.
  • elstoof 26 Nov 2012 12:06:07 8,332 posts
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    Well, not guaranteed to be available when you need it, so you pay up and hope you have a slot in time. One of the perks of living in central London is a high demand for places so there's not much choice but to get on a few waiting lists.
  • Kangoo 26 Nov 2012 13:09:59 1,023 posts
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    It amazes me how much shit nurseries get away with, my wife has worked in a few nurseries in the past and was working part time in our local one while she was expecting our daughter. Some of the stories she used to come home and tell me were truly shocking in the level of stupidity, the worst part was they actually managed to get an outstanding from Ofsted.

    Things like one member of staff leaving 6 month old babies on the changing unit and walking off continually, letting the kids play with cat litter in a litter tray (I really wish I was joking) and going on a 'cultural visit' to see a load of gypo's that had stopped off across the road.

    The problem is low pay means anyone good moves on and you get left with the rejects a lot of the time. Thankful that we found a Montessori pre-school that is really good and our daughter (2) loves it there and gets upset when she isn't going.

    My personal opinion is choose a place where you feel comfortable and like the look of the staff, make sure they are organised and have structured activities planned and have enough staff to cope with the care as well as planning.

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  • coastal 25 Dec 2012 10:10:15 5,390 posts
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    First time as Santa and loved it. Okay he's only seven months old and more interested in the wrapping paper but it still felt pretty good.

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  • TarickStonefire 25 Dec 2012 13:06:08 3,468 posts
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    elstoof wrote:
    One of the perks of living in central London is a high demand for places so there's not much choice but to get on a few waiting lists.

    That's not a perk ;)

    My wife is a nursery teacher in a Montessori nursery in SW London. She has learned that all nurseries, even allegedly "great" ones, have real issues with staffing. Most of the new staff they take on are really just kids, girls almost exclusively, who seem to think it'll be an easy ride and it absolutely isn't. She's one of the best staff there, the kids are actually upset when she's not in for any reason, but there are very few as good as her, I'd say about 80% are crap. It's frustrating.

    She loves the kids there (usually) but seeing what's involved in being a parent makes us glad we aren't I'm afraid - childcare in particular is absolutely extortionate. And that's just sodding nursery schools.

    Stress :(

    Edited by TarickStonefire at 13:08:35 25-12-2012

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  • Reacher 7 Aug 2013 14:38:00 901 posts
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    My 3rd son, was born late last night.He was 6 weeks early but is doing fine and dandy. This weekend has been chaotic and exhausting.
  • DUFFMAN5 7 Aug 2013 14:39:34 15,439 posts
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    Congrats :)

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  • jamievilla 7 Aug 2013 15:17:07 603 posts
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    Congrats! Call him Luis..
  • gammonbanter 14 Oct 2014 23:55:10 1,520 posts
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    New lad has arrived! Such an amazing feeling! I'm happy looking around this thread that all the Dads are still regular posters.
  • teamHAM 15 Oct 2014 00:30:21 3,153 posts
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    Congratulations!

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  • Khanivor 15 Oct 2014 00:39:57 41,299 posts
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    Ding!
  • elstoof 15 Oct 2014 05:55:20 8,332 posts
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    Congratulations gammon! Get on the dads club group of you haven't already.
  • Knighty 15 Oct 2014 06:14:16 1,009 posts
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    Congrats!
  • DUFFMAN5 15 Oct 2014 06:32:47 15,439 posts
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    @gammonbanter
    Great stuff, best wishes to you and yours :)

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  • mothercruncher 15 Oct 2014 07:12:18 7,896 posts
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    1up!
  • Murbs 15 Oct 2014 08:30:56 22,591 posts
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    elstoof wrote:
    Get on the dads club group of you haven't already.
    This! Join us there and stick up a pick of the littl'un. Congratulations \o/
  • THFourteen 15 Oct 2014 08:51:08 34,500 posts
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    Congrats!

    Hope you don't like sleep.
  • altitude2k 18 Oct 2014 13:14:19 4,901 posts
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    I'm in the middle of 4-day stay in hospital, thanks to some gastroenteritis worming its way through our two week old boy's guts.

    Not the greatest start, considering my wife had to be in for 3 nights after the birth. Any sense of normality couldn't seem any further away.
  • thedaveeyres 18 Oct 2014 13:16:07 11,609 posts
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    Normality as you know it is over forever. Welcome to the new normal. :)

    Hope everyone is feeling better soon, it's horrible when they're poorly.

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  • DodgyPast 18 Oct 2014 13:45:46 8,551 posts
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    @Murbal
    Tried to join but my application's been ignored.

    Congratulations.
  • elstoof 18 Oct 2014 15:45:10 8,332 posts
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    That's just how it is getting in, it's not been ignored on purpose but the forum notification to group admins is borked.
  • Khanivor 18 Oct 2014 15:53:41 41,299 posts
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    I think there's only one admin who even occasionally visits the forum anymore.
  • vijay_UK 18 Oct 2014 15:56:11 2,380 posts
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    gammonbanter wrote:
    New lad has arrived! Such an amazing feeling! I'm happy looking around this thread that all the Dads are still regular posters.
    Congratulations! Reminds me of when my little champ was born, he's now 5 and I don't know where the time went.

    Sleepless night's and changing nappies aside, this will be the best time for you. Enjoy every minute!
  • vijay_UK 18 Oct 2014 16:03:05 2,380 posts
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    altitude2k wrote:
    I'm in the middle of 4-day stay in hospital, thanks to some gastroenteritis worming its way through our two week old boy's guts.

    Not the greatest start, considering my wife had to be in for 3 nights after the birth. Any sense of normality couldn't seem any further away.
    Hope the boy get's better asap, I'm sure you're in good hands. I remember when my son was born, both he and the missus had to stay in hospital for a week so I know how you feel. All will be well soon enough :)
  • altitude2k 18 Oct 2014 17:34:18 4,901 posts
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    @vijay_UK Cheers mate. Looks like it's now to be 5 days. It's just undone all the effort we put into getting into some sort of routine, and now we'll probably have to start over when we get home.
  • THFourteen 18 Oct 2014 17:56:38 34,500 posts
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    Good luck mate.

    Hospitals suck, but from my experience they know what they are doing in there and it's all for the best.
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