Also, on a more practical note, and judging from what I know of your situation you'll be aware of this anyway, but Carrybagma's advice is definitely to be heeded.
Do not, under any cirumstances automatically believe what the doctors and nurses tell you. Get as many opinions as possible, and challenge everything. Get them to explain things, how they got to a particular diagosis, method of treatment, what exactly they're doing on a daily basis etc.
The only reason I say that is because of a catalogue of complete fuckups that I saw from the very beginning of the process. Including, but not limited to:
- 'forgetting' to insert the correct vitamins and fluids into the drip, causing massive physical deterioration over a period of a few days
- 'forgetting' to administer the correct amount of painkillers after a huge internal operation, leading to the person in question waking up will full sensation in the middle of the night.
- 'forgetting' special dietary requirements (regularly)
- Royally screwing up injections and blood samples on a regular basis
Honestly, check, double check, and check some more. As much as I don't mean to offend any health professionals on here, my experience of this couldn't possibly have left me with a worse impression.