A Secret Bitter Club handshake extended to you Genji. (and some hugs too)|
Here is what worked for me:
1. Cut them out completely. Don’t be friends. Not in real life. Not on Facebook. Not in the made up fantasy world of ‘you and her happy together forever riding around on unicorns’ that you have going on in your head.
2. Feel what you want to feel. If you want to be bitter go ahead. Just don’t let her rule your feelings.
3. The advice given to me here on that other thread was true. The only way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
So I’m now so blissfully happy that the new boyfriend and I disgust pretty much everyone we know with our soppy romantic behaviour... including ourselves. Everything that was wrong with my last relationship (which I consciously or unconsciously ignored or made excuses for) is so obvious now that I feel stupid for how long I spent mourning it.
That said, I still want to punch my ex in his stupid, smug and self-satisfied head every time I have to see him.
Hope it stops plaguing your thoughts soon. x
Oh and hugs to you too Zerobob!
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